A core belief is always an “I” statement as in “I am unlovable” A belief “Nobody loves me” is called a ‘supporting belief’, a prediction or forecast about what others will do or have done. But if it were not for the core belief we may well have been able to accept love and be loved. The untrue core belief is what helped make other people’s reactions occur and so give the core belief the ‘appearance’ of being true. (A self fulfilling prophecy.) — Growing Awareness
Easy translation:
Core beliefs, “I am unlovable”, are supported with supporting evidence, “Nobody loves me”. If you don’t determine these core beliefs and what evidence you use to support them, you will have emotions (sadness, anger) and behaviors (addictions, isolation) that follow this belief.
Take a look at these negative beliefs and determine what you may have as a core belief.
Not good enough (incompetent)
- I am no good
- I can’t get it right
- I can’t make it work (klutz)
- I can’t fix it
- I am not good enough
- I am unsuccessful
- I’m not valuable
- I am inferior
- I am nothing
- I am worthless
- I am invisible
- I am insignificant
Not good enough (unlovable)
- I am not lovable
- I am unacceptable
- I am plain and dull
- I am not special
- I don’t matter
- I am unworthy
- I am not interesting enough
Don’t know, wrong
- I don’t know
- I get it wrong
- I am always wrong
- I can’t understand
- I’m not understood
- I am in the wrong place
- I am no good
- I am a mistake
In danger or not safe
- I’m not safe
- I am afraid
- I am uncertain
- I am vulnerable
- I am helpless
Unwanted, different
- I don’t belong
- I am unwanted
- I am alone
- I am unwelcome
- I don’t fit in anywhere
- I don’t exist
- I’m nothing
- I should not be here at all
- I’m not anybody
- I am left out
- I am unsuitable
- I am uninteresting
- I am unimportant
- I don’t matter
Defective, imperfect, bad
- It’s my fault
- I am guilty
- I am bad
- I am not whole
- I am imperfect
- I am unattractive
- I am flawed
- I am stupid
- I am awkward
- I am slow
- I can’t be me
- I’m not true
- I’m dirty
- I am ugly
- I am fat
- I’m shameful
- I am unclean
- I am useless
- I am crazy
- I have a mental problem
- I am out of control
- I can’t make myself clear
- I am mistaken
- I am unbalanced
- I will fail
- I am a failure
- I don’t deserve to be loved
- I don’t deserve to be cared for
- I don’t deserve anything
- There’s something wrong with me
Powerless, one-below
- I can’t do it
- I can’t
- I am a victim
- I am weak
- I am powerless
- I am a failure
- I am ineffective
- I don’t have any choice
- I am less than
- I am helpless
- I finish last
- I am always number two
- I am always one-below
- I can’t stand up for myself
- I am inferior
- I am a loser
- I am inadequate
- I can’t say ‘no’
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